People love to peek into the lives of others, which is why social media can be so appealing. When it comes to what to share or how much to share, that’s where things get sticky.
The best example: “mom bloggers.” While the label doesn’t apply strictly to mothers (there are many great dad bloggers out there), plenty of moms share their family stories, jokes and photos with the public via social media and other online platforms.
Confession: I’m one of them!
Critics disagree with parents sharing details of their children on social media—stating concerns with privacy and safety. The concerns are valid, but there’s a reason I do what I do, and standards I have to ensure the safety and privacy of my children.
In 2013, I created a parenting humor blog called Six Pack Mom. I share funny, heartfelt stories about the sweet parenthood moments, and even funnier tales about the days that are total dumpster fires. I also create original memes and Tweets about parenthood on Twitter.
While I have a lot of followers that enjoy what I share, I know there are plenty who disapprove of me sharing stories about my children publicly. While my aim is never to convince anyone to do the same, I do have deep convictions about why I’m so open to sharing family life anecdotes publicly.
In the glossy, “perfect” social media world, let’s get real.
When you look at other moms’ social media accounts, it can be hard not to feel “less than.” We often get caught in the comparison trap of feeling like we’re not measuring up. Our house is messier. Our kids are pickier. We magnify our shortcomings in light of others’ highlight reels.
That’s what motivated me to share the real-life moments. I post pictures of the fails: The messes, the broken household items, the walls graffitied in black Sharpie. And parents love them, because that’s reality. For a struggling mother, some of the best words to hear from a fellow mom are: “I know, me too!”
Laughter is the best medicine for community and encouragement
Let’s call it what it is: Parenting is difficult. Yet you’re not supposed to say that out loud, lest you risk being deemed ungrateful or unappreciative of your gift that is raising children. So many moms feel overwhelmed, exhausted and emotional, but are often made to feel guilty for those feelings. I’ve been there.
That’s why I share the hardest aspects of parenting, but in a humorous light. Laughing about some of the grittier parts of raising kids is a vital way for parents to feel less isolated and more understood.
Too many moms feel alone. Bonding with fellow parents on social media is a powerful way to build a community—a parenting tribe. This community is a place parents can turn for the encouragement they need to tackle the challenges—or at least laugh about them!
When it comes to what I share, my kids come first
Safety is my first priority, and I exercise caution about what I share about my kids. I have never shared their names publicly, and I only share pictures occasionally. When I plan to write a blog post or Tweet about a topic, I ask the child involved if it’s okay, to respect their privacy.
While I use humor, I do so carefully. I don’t post anything mean-spirited or that I’d be ashamed for my children to see. I let them be as involved—or not involved—with my public content as they’d like.
I know how isolated and overwhelmed I felt in early motherhood. If my humor and honesty on social media can alleviate that feeling for other moms, then I’m honored to do what I do.
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